7 Powerful Public Speaking Tips From One of the Most-Watched TED Talks Speakers
Source: www.entrepreneur.com
You’d never know it, but Simon Sinek is naturally shy and
doesn’t like speaking to crowds. At parties, he says he hides alone in the
corner or doesn’t even show up in the first place. He prefers the latter. Yet, with
some 22 million video views under his belt, the optimistic ethnographer also
happens to be the third most-watched TED Talks
presenter of all time.
Ironic for an introvert, isn’t it? Sinek’s unlikely success
as both an inspirational speaker and a bestselling author isn’t just dumb luck. It’s also not
being in the right place at the right time or knowing the right people. It’s
the result of fears faced and erased, trial and error and tireless practice, on
and off stage.
We caught up with Sinek to pick his brain about how he
learned to give such confident, captivating and meaningful presentations and
how others can, too.
Here are his top seven secrets for delivering speeches that
inspire, inform and entertain. (For more helpful pointers on how to wow an
audience, check out his free 30-minute class on Skillshare now. It’s
titled How to Present: Share Ideas That Inspire Action.)
1. Don’t talk right away.
Sinek says you should never talk as you walk out on stage.
“A lot of people start talking right away, and it’s out of nerves,” Sinek says.
“That communicates a little bit of insecurity and fear.”
Instead, quietly walk out on stage. Then take a deep breath,
find your place, wait a few seconds and begin. “I know it sounds long and
tedious and it feels excruciatingly awkward when you do it,” Sinek says, “but
it shows the audience you’re totally confident and in charge of the situation.”
Related: Why Entrepreneurs Love Steve
Jobs
2. Show up to give, not to take.
Often people give presentations to sell products or ideas,
to get people to follow them on social media, buy their books or even just to
like them. Sinek calls these kinds of speakers “takers,” and he says audiences
can see through these people right away. And, when they do, they disengage.
“We are highly social animals," says Sinek. "Even
at a distance on stage, we can tell if you’re a giver or a taker, and people
are more likely to trust a giver -- a speaker that gives them value, that
teaches them something new, that inspires them -- than a taker.”
3. Make eye contact with audience members one by one.
Scanning and panning is your worst enemy, says Sinek. “While
it looks like you’re looking at everyone, it actually disconnects you from your
audience.”
It’s much easier and effective, he says, if you directly
look at specific audience members throughout your speech. If you can, give each
person that you intently look at an entire sentence or thought, without
breaking your gaze. When you finish a sentence, move on to another person and keep
connecting with individual people until you’re done speaking.
“It’s like you’re having a conversation with your
audience," says Sinek. "You’re not speaking at them,
you’re speaking with them."
This tactic not only creates a deeper connection with individuals
but the entire audience can feel it.
4. Speak unusually slowly.
When you get nervous, it’s not just your heart beat that
quickens. Your words also tend to speed up. Luckily Sinek says audiences
are more patient and forgiving than we know.
“They want you to succeed up there, but the more you rush,
the more you turn them off," he says. "If you just go quiet for a
moment and take a long, deep breath, they’ll wait for you. It’s kind of
amazing.”
Sinek believes it’s impossible to speak too slowly on stage.
“It’s incredible that you can stand on stage and speak so slowly that there are
several seconds between each of your words and people… will… hang… on… your…
every… word. It really works.”
5. Ignore the naysayers.
Dismiss the people furrowing their brows,
crossing their arms or shaking their heads “no.” Instead, focus only on your
supporters -- the people who are visibly engaged, enjoying your presentation
and nodding “yes.” If you find the audience members who are positively
interacting with you, you’ll be much more confident and relaxed than if you try
to convince the naysayers.
6. Turn nervousness into excitement.
Sinek learned this trick from watching the Olympics. A few
years ago he noticed that reporters interviewing Olympic athletes before and
after competing were all asking the same question. "Were you nervous?” And
all of the athletes gave the same answer: "No, I was excited." These
competitors were taking the body’s signs of nervousness -- clammy hands,
pounding heart and tense nerves -- and reinterpreting them as side effects of
excitement and exhilaration.
When you’re up on stage you will likely go through the same
thing. That’s when Sinek says you should say to yourself out loud, “I’m not
nervous, I’m excited!”
“When you do, it really has a miraculous impact in helping
you change your attitude to what you’re about to do," Sinek says.
7. Say thank you when you’re done.
Applause is a gift, and when you receive a gift, it’s only
right to express how grateful you are for it. This is why Sinek always closes
out his presentations with these two simple yet powerful words: thank you.
"They gave you their time, and they’re giving you their
applause." Says Sinek. "That’s a gift, and you have to be
grateful."
No comments